Prioritizing Connection in Busy Lives

When life gets busy, couples often notice one of the first things to suffer is their emotional connection. As we become overwhelmed with daily responsibilities and stress, it becomes harder to incorporate time for emotional connection into our days. As a result, couples often start to feel disconnected from one another. Here are a few ways to reconnect.

Create Date Nights

Most frequently, the suggested activities to rebuild emotional intimacy are date nights, trips away, and time off work together. Although these can be effective strategies for increasing connection, they are not always accessible for couples. These strategies require significant resources such as time and money. This often leaves couples without access to these resources feeling defeated. Fortunately, there are ways to focus on connection when access to these resources is limited.

Prioritize Intentional Engagement

One of the simplest strategies for increasing connection is to prioritize 10-30 min each day to engage with one another. Most couples find it easiest to have this time at the very beginning of the day or at the end of the day once in bed. This can be done by conversating, laying/sitting quietly together, or engaging in a shared activity. The length of time is less important than finding ways to consistently create space for this within your routine. Create a distraction free environment by making phones off limits. Whether you have a busy work schedule, kids, or other obligations, most couples find that they can incorporate 10-30 minutes a few days a week to engage in this strategy.

Get Creative

At home date nights are a strategy that helps with lack of access to financial resources or childcare. At home date nights do not have to be elaborate or expensive to be effective. The focus with these date nights should be intentionality as opposed to the actual activity. Creating the space to spend intentional time with your partner can help to effectively increase a feeling of connection. Planning ahead, creating a distraction free space, and focusing on emotional needs are helpful ways to communicate intentionality.

Focus on Love Language

Another strategy for increasing connection is focused on love languages and emotional needs. It can be helpful to learn what your partner’s love language and emotional needs are so you can focus on daily ways to meet those needs. There are free resources available online to help you and your partner determine what your love language and emotional needs are. Finding small ways to meet these needs can drastically increase the feeling of connection within a relationship.

Another strategy for increasing connection is focused on love languages and emotional needs. It can be helpful to learn what your partner’s love language and emotional needs are so you can focus on daily ways to meet those needs. There are free resources available online to help you and your partner determine what your love language and emotional needs are. Finding small ways to meet these needs can drastically increase the feeling of connection within a relationship.